Karl Moser’s HIV diagnosis came at a time in his life when he was self-destructing through depression. Not only has he learned how to live with HIV, but he’s also reclaimed the keys to a life worth living.
Universal testing fails as an HIV prevention strategy for gay men not just on the evidence, as we saw last week, but on the practicality and cost of making it work. Let’s look at some real-world applications of this.
When anxious or depressed, our minds become soothsayers, predicting the future with perceived certainty but little precision. We also lose the power to reason rationally, instead letting our emotions take over: simply because we think it, we assume it to be true.
Research has shown testing as prevention to be ineffective at worst and inconclusive at best, yet ACON have adopted it as a key plank in their new campaign Ending HIV, which aims to wipe out the virus in less than seven years in New South Wales. Why?
Coping successfully with older age is something that 78-year-old Rob Calder does remarkably well, although he laughs that he still has days when he wants to lie in bed with the blankets over his head. There is much that senior gay men, and indeed those of us who are younger, can learn from how he has set up his life.
Condoms are the only proven method of stopping HIV transmission, according to ACON. So why aren’t they selling this idea? Many have succeeded in selling the unsellable before…let’s take a look a history.
EXPLICIT IMAGE WARNING (NSFW): ACON’s Ending HIV campaign is commendable in its vision: to reduce HIV infections among gay men 80% by 2020 in New South Wales. But the trees of testing are blinding it from the forest of rubberless fucking at the heart of the epidemic.
You know what the worst thing about being single on Valentine’s Day is? It’s not the public declarations of love on Facebook by your partnered friends (how could I possibly feel spiteful because of their happiness?), it’s the well-meaning advice.
We value long-term relationships highly, but how often we do this out of status anxiety rather than a desire for happiness? It seems there’s a default belief that it’s simply better to be in a relationship than not in one. Is it time for a dash of emotional independence?
Well, that time of the year has come where I stop talking for a while (yes it does happen occasionally). This blog has now been running for two years, and the audience has more than tripled since this time last year. Thank you all for continuing to read these ramblings and share them about the …