The art of being a man
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The art of being a man


Todd Karehana used to pull out his eyelashes and scratch up his face to look more masculine, after being teased at school for looking like a girl. Now in his mid-20s, he’s realised that “being masculine doesn’t mean you have to wear staunch clothes and grunt at people. It’s just being who you are.” Continue reading »

A lion in the Christian’s den
anxiety / depression / flourishing / gay / homophobia / religion / self-stigma / wellbeing

A lion in the Christian’s den


Freedom2b is not a church, and its aim is not to encourage gay Christians to leave church, or go back to it if they’ve already left. Faith is your own personal journey, and this is a safe space for you to explore being gay and Christian and receive support from others who have been in your shoes. And it does its job pretty damn well. Continue reading »

Gay men have no style
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Gay men have no style


Gay men have no style because we are original, as individuals. Each one of us has our own stories, our own lives, and our own favourite item of clothing. For some it’s the suit they wear to work. For others, it’s the Collingwood jersey they wear to the pub. And yes, for some it’s the tight glittery singlet that makes their nipples stand out. Continue reading »

No sex please, you’re Asian
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No sex please, you’re Asian


Ivan Yeo was given the lowdown on sexual racism when he first arrived in New Zealand. A friend told him. “Unless you’re white, young, blonde, then you’ll be the top line of meat,” he laughs. “Being Asian is down in the food chain, and he said I’d most likely end up with an older white male.” Continue reading »

Warning: Gay Catholic priest
gay / HIV/AIDS / homophobia / religion

Warning: Gay Catholic priest


Michael’s vocation was not a supernatural one, but a human one. The priests, brothers and nuns he saw around him as a child were genuine role models. As a young man, he “wasn’t having deep spiritual thoughts, visions or anything like that. It was just human beings that I saw as good people, dedicating themselves to God through their work, and me saying ‘I think I could do that’.” But was there really room in the church for a gay Catholic priest? Continue reading »

End of chapter 2
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End of chapter 2


Well, that time of the year has come where I stop talking for a while (yes it does happen occasionally). This blog has now been running for two years, and the audience has more than tripled since this time last year.  Thank you all for continuing to read these ramblings and share them about the … Continue reading »